Watch Friends ! :)

 

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It’s funny how life is, how liking certain things defines you, sometimes for a lifetime. In my case, one of the most defining things, I hope not in a superficial way 🙂 , is the sit-comedy “Friends” . It’s not that I like it, its a little bit more than this. :)) I watched the whole show so many times that I cannot remember, and, when watching an episode, I always know the next line before they say it, and even so, I enjoy it every-time.

I grew up with this show, and, I know it’s been over for so long, 10 years now, but it’s still funny and current (except the technology that is funny in itself by now. :)) I have laughed and cried so many times because of these characters and their lives that I genuinely care about them, and over time, I identified with some of them and some of their life events. It has been really a great friendship and really one of the most deep experiences, as far as a television show can go . 🙂

What is really cool, is that over time, the areas in which I identified myself with them changed, as my understanding and maturity grew, or my life went through different keep calm friendsmoments. When I was alone I always was somehow closer to Rachel, and when I got a boyfriend I identified more with the couples in the show like Rachel and Ross and Monica and Chandler.. when I was living with my girlfriends there have been so many moments in which we were sharing in the same way our life and I will never forget them.. of course when I got married I remembered some of  the wedding preparation that Monica and Chandler went through… 🙂

Unexpectedly, when I thought that this show cannot offer anything new to me, I found a new point of view again, thru a surprising connection: I am taking a professional cooking class (btw my grade in the first test was 10, the best in the class, hehe  😀 ). I never took notice so much so much in this profession, and now, the fact that Monica is a chef made me return to this show, and it’s a whole new point of view, which makes it fresh again. I like to watch the whole thing over again, with her finding the perfect chef job and the struggle, and due to the current state of my life, I can definitely relate. Even more, I don’t know how you are, but so far, although I was cooking very frequently I never took into consideration the chef experience. To cook for a large group of people compared to your family or friends is completely different and trough this class I gained a whole new respect for the cooks and chefs that serve such delicious meals and make it seem so effortless. But, (a lot more) about that later. Today’s post is dedicated to Friends. Just because it has enriched my life, made me smile when I was sad, made me think about whole other points of view, and, why not, improved my ironic humor. 🙂

The people who know me, my real friends 🙂 , know that I am quoting all the time different scenes from this show, because, sometimes there are in life exactly the same circumstances and, the funny way of looking at them makes things better in so many ways.

Of course, there have been and there are so many other shows that I have watched over the years, but none of them had the effect this one had on me. There are loves and loves, like in any other parts of life. 😉

So, a big thank you, whereever you are, to all the actors, writers, directors and crew of Friends. It was one of my biggest dreams to see a taping of one episode, but this is an impossible dream. Oh well, there are still all those little bits of happiness inside of every episode.This blog is about a happy life, and, yes, they made me happy so many times. They still do. If some of you did’t watch the show, please do, I guarantee you won’t regret it.

Although I am sharing with you my personal experience, I have also a general point of view. I think the life is pretty hard sometimes, and all of our daily gestures can make it better or worse. I think there are moments in which a sunny day, a funny movie or show or a up beat song can improve our mood and make all the difference. Friends always worked for me, but of course it’s not the only option. The important thing to remember is that the sounds, images, smells and all the surrounding things are influencing us. I think it’s important to choose the ones that are influencing us for the better, and our life will be happier.

What about you? Do you have some shows that you love like that? Please tell me in the comments, I would love to know, maybe you you are also giving me a new show idea, so thank you in advance! 😉

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Go to the cinema alone.

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Hey, long time no see, ha? :))

I missed so much writing in here, and connecting with you guys! It has become such an important part of my life, and when I cannot find the time to do it, it feels like a huge piece missing from my existence. 🙂

Now I’m back, I hope I will keep writing and finding the time through my busy life. By the way, my life changed a whole lot in the last months, more than I would have ever thought or imagined, and it’s not still the final, stable version yet, still beta version :)), but the whole changing process brought to us, me and my husband, new ways of connecting with each other and new ways to get to know, in a positive or negative way, the people around us. I am currently writing a post about it, but it takes time. You,  my fellow bloggers and friends, you know that the more personal a post is, the more is difficult to express. But I am determined to do it, so keep in touch 🙂

For today, what I want to talk to you about is perspective. Perspective, I have found, is one of the most important things in the life.

It can raise you up or bring you down, you can make bad or good life decisions according to your perspective, and, it can change your whole way of thinking once you acknowledge your position according to a new point of view.

For understanding this, I will tell you a story :  Once upon a time, a few years back, I was having a conversation with one of my girlfriends. I was telling her that I really wish I can go to cinema, but, all friends I had asked if they wanted to join me, had other plans.  My friend looked at me, and she asked me a little surprised, why I would necessarily need anyone to join me. If I wanted to go, I could go by myself. I was very amazed by this possibility, because in my opinion going to movies was only a group activity and the option of going by myself made me feel ashamed, at the thought that the people might believe that I was a girl with no friends, rejected by society and, first and foremost, alone. After I told my friend my opinion she answered, with what became one of the most important points of view of my life: ” If you want to go to cinema, you don’t have to wait for anyone else that should join you. For me, it’s one of the favorite moments I can spend time by my self and I wouldn’t trade that for the world.”

“But, I continued, Isn’t it shameful to sit by yourself while other people are in groups ?’

“No, she said,  why it would be ? There is no shame in enjoying a movie by yourself and the activities a person does by him or herself are very important in that person’s life. It’s not shameful at all that anyone enjoys time by oneself “.

Those words literally changed my life. I went to cinema in that day, somehow not believing so much that I can enjoy myself, thinking that people will pity and look badly at me. It was not remotely like this, even the contrary. If there were pity looks I didn’t see them, because I was so happy that I could choose the movie I wanted to see, and the treats I wanted to buy without compromising to my friend’s opinions, as usual. I ended up seeing two movies in a row. It was a long time dream of mine that no friend wanted to join also 🙂

Since then, I am going to cinema, restaurant and any other activity that I wish, just because I enjoy doing it. I do this also with my friends, but its such a different experience that I like do both, in different ways.
Every time I do it I think about the fact that, if I was never having the conversation with my friend I would have lived with an opinion that would have robbed me of so many joyful moments trough in my life.

Thinking that at some point in my life it seemed like taboo to do somethings it proves to myself, over and over again, that the perspective can change your whole life sometimes. The cinema is just an example. The activity is not important. Important is to understand how important is the perspective in life. It’s one of the reoccurring thoughts I have, and I will come back to it in future posts also.

Being able to do what you wish makes you feel free. Of course, the sensation of freedom together with a favorite activity is one of the way to reach true happiness. Sometimes, we deny ourselves these precious moments due to some misconceptions that don’t belong to us or even to this century. So, why care for them?

Perspective is important. Remember it. Try to shift the perspective and see things from other point of view. It might just change your life. 😉

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